When you relocate for your job, your employer should offer some assistance. Be sure to negotiate well in advance of the move.

Decide if you need:

Moving expenses: Companies may be willing to pay for you actual expenses of relocation. Get estimates online and from movers in your area. If your company won't pay all your moving costs, negotiate to collect at least a specific percentage of the total. Be sure to factor in additional costs for transporting you and your family. If a time-pressured relocation means you'll be in temporary housing for a while, ask about self-storage expenses for your possessions.

Time off: You may need a week (or even longer) to make the move, unpack and get settled in your new home.

Housing assistance: Most companies will allow you to take one or more house-hunting trips well before your move. A few companies may help you find suitable housing or even offer temporary housing at the new location, if the move is time pressured.

Counseling: You, your spouse and your children may need sessions with a counselor or therapist to adjust to the life upheaval that goes along with relocation. Children especially may need assistance to handle a new school and separation from their old friends.

Spousal assistance: Many employers will use their network of contacts and influence to help the so-called trailing spouse find work.

Other advice: If you need it, ask for help finding good schools, safe neighborhoods, or other important factors in your relocation.